particles - weekly

2012-02-14T08:18:00.000-08:00

Scattered dollar bills on the stairway to the flag pole ....scattered souls ... And many bullet holes
Blood icing on the cake ...and a dull rusty blade ... Adjourn the glass of uncle sam's crystal ball
The beast shall never fall !

Innocence of the guilty and guilt of the innocent .... As the tanks watch on from the curb ..beneath the lamp post
Bring me the future for many have wasted theirs .... I can't be blamed if you never cared ...if your road never took you there

I am Egyptian ...said the child with a soft grin..
I deserve better .... This can not be the end

Upper and Lower Egypt

2011-07-29T08:31:00.000-07:00

Upper Egypt, or "el Saeed" as we call it, has always been the true wealth of this forgetful nation,

nothing ever got done without thier consent, and not a single ruler or occupier has withstood their wrath, and in so many ways they are the Egyptians, while the rest of us "lower" Egyptians are muddled and messed up, with all sorts of issues, in short, they Are the Silent block, and they have been marginalized and ignored for decades and decades, simply out of precaution, since they don't take slight lightly, and they just love Vendettas, and are hierarchical to the utmost, and they just DON'T fuck around.

you're talking about at least 70% of Egypt here, Army, police, builders, farmers, and plain ol' simple people.

they are ignored, they are rich, they are strong, and they can flip the switch on all of this without much thought,

and it just seems really unjust and highly stupid to continue ignoring them.
we need them.

all we should do is show some respect.

On Blah Vs, Blah Blah!

2011-07-16T09:26:00.000-07:00

i call this divine intervention

So,
we've all read John Gray's Classic Men are from Blah, and women are From Blah Blah, and we all know how most of the time it still sucks like sour camel balls to try to get that idiot/idiotess to understand wtf you are talking about!
i guess the first question that really does jump in my head when observing such antics, is why the hell are you together in the first place? and how come you two can smash away pretty well at one another in anger (and manage to get your point perfectly across while you're angry), yet somehow just cannot communicate calmly!!
my guess is that you have no idea what you are feeling, because you are at the stage when you want so bad to communicate, it just gets in the way, you haven't stopped to think about what you are feeling, and if you're emotions are truly justified or not, in which case your partner would most probably react to your emotions instead of reacting to what you are really saying, and hence you react to the Agitation, and so forth...
Eeeek!
that's fucking ugly you know,
and it can easily (well NOT so easily) be prevented, by calming the fuck down and remembering why you got your ass in this relationship in the first place!,
it's not that hard,
and it's Far better and much more constructive that smashing all your favorite kitchenware / your prize guitar on his/her currently inaccessible communication nodes!

Ease off Dude/Duddess! you're missing out on too much fun!
ps: yes Makeup sex and Even Fighting Sex is Awesome!!

why it wont work

2011-06-30T14:41:00.000-07:00

the major export of some countries in this day and age.

so here it is

Democracy (as an applicable system) :

is only acceptable when it's too expensive to kill off your opposition ,

and can only be ensured if your youths (upcoming generations) remember and re-live the horror of having to pay that price all over again,

Examples :

Germany (300 year war, the 100 year war, and almost every war ever fought in freaking Europe including both World wars!, and some for just the heck of it),

the USA (the civil war was bad enough, and of course the Mexican wars and the liberation wars)

Lebanon, (long civil war till every one got too goddamned tiered of killing everyone else)

in some cases, to a lesser extent, the Geo/Socio/Political parameters and realities force such realities on the people.

examples :

Greece (country too segregated geographically),

India (too God damned large, huge populace)

Democracy (as a Brand)

happens to be one of the most successful brands being marketed around the globe right now, as big as Pepsi or Coca Cola, and with the same intentions, more sales, more goods,

and more opportunities to the salesman, it's been turned into the banner that every tom dick and harry can wave and no one would dare question them, i should say Atrees, Mukhaymar and Ewees, since I’m an Egyptian , but i think you get my point,

so my final commentary on what's happening in my country is this,

if you don't know what happened to other nations when they took a certain path,

you're pretty much destined to repeat their mistakes,

albeit how spectacular your failure would be in accord with your local custom,

-shut the F* up!

-Read,

-learn,

-think,

-then proceed to fuck it up,

at least that way you would have a chance to fix things up as they hit you in your face.

Shallow waters

2010-12-19T01:46:00.000-08:00

Take a dip in my shallow waters of mental manifestations
There upon the cold ceramic floors ... lying naked with a spot light upon a dying flower ... i see no reason why
perhaps its time .. again and again ... time to fall back ... fall behind .. in the crevice of time

strap a shroud of desire upon your restless forehead , let it fall upon your eyes , despise , analyse , devise a plan to move mountains and turn your life around , there's no sound , the crowds aren't cheering anymore, just a lot of dark men , in dark suits with long hats, smoking pipes and listening cautiously

I confess dear doctor, i couldn't care less, but that's just me, could i get you a fork and knife, as you cut and slice away

feed me drugs that ease the pain,,, as i run across the trees of autumn and scatter the dead leaves of regret, upon the ground where we once met

I see the dead rabbit in my soup bowl, but i couldn't care, alice is long gone down the hole, into the land where no one returns , there she sits upon a golden chair under a satin curtain with a glass of wine

spin it ... spin it .... round and round we run around as the music sets the mood, in the land of thieves, with our MC Robin Hood

Prevention and Quality - Two words we don't understand!

2010-11-07T11:25:00.000-08:00

How many times did you go to a doctor, to find a cure for your illness, and got a cure for your pain only? How many times did you go to a mechanic, for diagnosing a troubling sound in your car, and he began changing parts haphazardly with no logical or systematic process? How many times have you met with people who dismissed the causes because the symptoms have disappeared?

Unfortunately we live in a region, where diagnosis, prevention and Quality are empty vapid words, which are no more than buzz words used in marketing pamphlets to contrast with the deteriorating and morbid state which it so flamboyantly addresses! Public figures have no problem going on public television and satellite cable television to advertise products they haven't even tried, as they play on the audience's emotion, economic downturn and their desperation!

Yet! why do we always separate the people from the media, or from leadership, or even from ourselves? Other than the need for recognition, and independence! the answer lies within ourselves! and i'm not referring to repetitive overused slogans and cliche's of hard work and persistence, rather i am referring to why we are separated, unwilling to give to others, or honor our agreements or their rights. In my humble opinion, the reason is that we despise them! we despise ourselves! and we despise our lives! we look down on anything that is too little, and we undermine and feel pity for anything that is too much, that would sound logical if we were a developed country with decent living standards, moderate GDP's, decent health care and education services! unfortunately this is not the case! and we know it! and that's another reason for us to despise ourselves!

and looking at the effort it would take to change this, and whether the change is worth it all together, and whether your neighbor and your brother an sister feel the same, and whether you will be sacrificed at the stake as your family and friends watch in the same desperation you once had, before being burnt not as a martyr, but as a traitor to your government, and your people, who will despise you and look down on you, because its simply easier that way.

Loss of Hope, could be another major cause for our problems, there is no solution, or savior, there is no saad zaghloul, omar makram, or jamal abd el nasser anymore, only anonymous leaders behind questionable cloaks, and public figures with curious agendas and international ties. Egyptians need their heroes and their saviors, we need someone to save us, show us, help us, because we are pathetic and weak and helpless, just like the sorrowful and pitiful state to which we have arrived!

face your worst enemy, your self...

2010-07-18T04:21:00.000-07:00

it has been observed many times that some animals would chew off their own limbs if trapped,
i like to believe that such self destructive behavior, after all the time spent on the evolutionary path, would eventually end,... not to mention, that as human beings we actually have thumbs, and the ability to manipulate objects that may obstruct our path,
it bothers me to no end to see just how wrong that assumption is,
after many years of observing and interacting with fellow human beings, i have a public statement to make,
WE SUCK!
as in big time,
and we have no excuse for our idiotic self cantered, hypocritical, fearful conduct.

we’re all afraid of one thing or the other, we all have our daemons to wrestle with, and none of us enjoy that sensation of “shit, why do i have to go through it again” , and we all somehow reach out and hope expect and demand that other’s help us, soothe our fears, make us feel better, be positive, and generally shine down on us with bliss while we continue our business of criticizing how the light they are giving isn’t the right shade of morning we would like...
what the fuck gives any of us the right to be such... such, ... i really can’t find a word to convey my utter disgust, and that’s saying a lot.

recognise that if you’re upset about something, then in all likely hood you have caused someone to be upset too, and if you are close, then in all probability you both are mirroring and complementing each others idiocy, ...
all human contact and relationships are priceless, and it’s a damned shame to loose any,
remember that if you are not going to change how you react/act the outcomes will be the same, and that someone (preferably you, since you are the one bitching about it most) has to stop the cycle of blah that is plaguing your life, and stopping the blah, is not equivalent to wrecking or destroying something you want, just because it’s easier to fuck things up than to fix them, it’s easier to criticize and lay blame than it is to truly attempt to understand the mechanism that causes you/me to act in such a wasteful manner, remind your self that you too are fallible, that you too are probably a dickhead, that’s a good start.
deal with it, in a way that serves your long term interests,
it being whatever it is.

please, evolve...

Cutting off the petals

2008-02-10T10:00:00.000-08:00

I hate YOU!

How does that make you feel?

There have been so many statements filled with hatered towards other races, religions, idealogies or just simply pure separatist acts of vanity and self love, the problem isn't with such hateful comments but with the stereotypes which are carried on by word of mouth, passing judgement over several generations of people and sometimes even commencing execution.

You may hear of words of hatered towards palestinians, and stereotyping them as a nation of hypocrits and weasels, or maybe you might hear words of discrimination about people in your own country that they're tight, or stupid, you may also hear words of discrimmination against other religions or cultures.

If you don't like this being exercized over you, DON'T BE THE ONE TO INDULGE IN SUCH CRIMES AGAINST OTHERS!

Out of Grey

2007-12-17T11:51:00.000-08:00

I picked up the black crayon and started drawing as my teacher asked me to, i drew a pavement, a sky and a road where cars were passing with their lights on.... i used up all my black crayon, there was a sense of simplicity back then as to how i see my world, i didn't need any white crayon, as the white paper on which i drew compensated for such...
with time, i grew up, and with it my realization and conviction that nothing was as black as my crayon, and nothing was as white as paper, i understood that pavements were never as black as they seemed to be, after realizing that the color was fading due to imperfection, i later came to know, that it was because of the workers being underpaid, and the paint salesman a thief, i later realized as well that the sky wasn't as black as i thought it was, because of all the pollution and smog surrounding my polluted city caused by manufacturers who couldn't care beyond the money pouring into their pockets, ....i also realized that the decision to use a black crayon was becoming harder and harder with time, and that even the paper on which i drew wasn't as white as should be, after being made of recycled material which has been processed repeatedly to save our dying forests....
in several moments in my life the decision to use black and white crayons was becoming harder and harder as my perspective matured.... with time i needed the grey crayon over and over again...to draw the fading figures in the night, the grey pavement overrun by old unmaintained vehicles and repeatedly laid out by dishonest contractors, i needed the grey to draw the buildings with no facade due the tenants' tight budgets and demanding lives, i needed grey to draw the fading colors of our national flag, and to paint the faces of millions of us losing face as we battle through life just to make ends meet while losing every last shred of self respect along the way, i needed grey to draw our nile once pure but now polluted with gas, industrial waste and dead rotting corpses of once healthy animals grazing across the green pasture, i needed more grey crayons, but there was no more left in the market, they were all bought by big corporations and government officials who couldn't decide which side they were on, incase any of them lost along the way, they were bought by the schools to draw on their blackboards ancient knowledge by underpaid self loathing teachers who don't care less about the information they're delivering, they were bought by the newspapers to decrease ink consumption and increase the toxicity of the papers they print and the morbid news they deliver..................

i was out of ideas.... so all i did and all i could do was just buy some black paper.... some white crayons ....and drew a white candle with a white light extending in the darkness

The Evil Outside !

2007-04-04T22:21:00.000-07:00

You may often receive an e-mail from a fellow muslim, or you may still receive it, if you're not a muslim, it usually starts like "Fellow muslims beware of the evil "west"/"Americans".....etc. "and it goes as follows:

1. they are trying to use pork/mice/dead animals/roaches/butterflies/genies/dwarfs/orcs in the meat they sell through their fast food places in the arab countries

2. they are using pork fat in the chewing gum they sell to us

3. that type of beverage has a hidden percent of alcohol

4. they have put drugs that will get us addicted to their food in their food

5. they have built a computer store in the shape of the Ka'ba' to mock us and have built some bars in their that serve liquor

6. they have taken pictures of the globe using their advanced satellite spying technology and meccah and medinah appear like two shinning spots in the middle of the darkness but the lost ones still fail to recognize

7. this tree/chocolate cake/fish/fruit/baby was found with islamic writings on him which seemed totally amazing and the lost ones fail to recognize, maybe they will be able later on to recognize such miracles and understand

8. A superstar who has converted to islam after having some sort of miracle and they put an obviously fake picture of the star in some islamic ritual or just a normal picture

9. That was a real piss off, i wanted to send a kick email to the sender and it went like this: Science has submitted to the lady with the face veil- and the story is about a lady doctor who has made research and went to a conference and spoke about her research amongst men, so i have no idea what this proves, but it was really frustrating for me to read that the writer feels she has proven that she still has a brain despite her face veil and that all men admired her courage to speak in such a conference

....bla...bla.....bla.....bla

I'd like to say first off, that i'm a muslim myself and proud to be this way, but i feel that such e-mails are a blatant ignorant perspective of the western world. The west doesn't care about stuffing pigs in our food or alcohol in our drinks, why would they when it's extra cost for them, and if they feel it is ok to drink and eat pork, then giving it to us is justing adding up to the costs of whatever they send us, which is ridiculous, i just feel that people should chill and stop such pointless propaganda, no one is after our faith, and even if their was, that's no the way to deal with it.

Some of the emails seek to prove that miracles happened to validate or re-validate faith, which to me is ridiculous because it actually shows weak faith which requires validation by materialistic proof, or the conversion of some celebrity to islam.

Please! Please! Please! stop giving the wrong impressions and notions about islam by communicating in its regard with such pompous ignorance! .... sometimes the authors of such emails include actually news articles to verify their stories, but it proves that they have poor language skills nothing more, like the story about the Kaa'ba where they say there's a bar inside that serves alcohol, they got the bar bit right but it's an I-POD Bar!

Gandhi Pills

2007-04-02T05:43:00.000-07:00

Throghout my life i have been confronted with unreasonable aggression, hurt and just to put it simply: HATE! It has always been a dilemma to try to deal with such situations, do i come back at my aggressors with the same force? do i try to understand their reasons and motives first? do i disregard it? i have always tried to convince myself that what our parents have taught us as kids is the right road, that i have to swallow the hurt and be the more reasonable party in this situation, sometimes it was bareable, and i was able to swallow it, most other times i couldn't, i had to do something, it was like being handed a really hot plate, which you're trying to handle with the tips of your fingers and at the same time you don't want to fall or be handed over to any one else you know, how do you deal with such situations? when you can barely restrain yourself from giving back your aggressor a piece of your mind! Some people look upon this as an opportunity to unleach all their burried hurt and frustration, and that by aggreviating them their aggressor has unlocked the door to his own demise, and so they're not resposnible for whatever happens to him, and will not feel any guilt by unloading all their negative feelings unto him. Yet i wonder, what if it was all because of mis-communication, i would still like to belive that no one would approach some one he knows or doesn't know and blast off at him for no reason what so ever, there must be some reason for it, some explanation, some miscommunication, and that is why i feel we have to address the misocmmunication that happened and not the aggression itself, however, other factors come into play, other very powerful and influential factors such as diginity, pride and sense of self worth! how can you allow someone to approach your turf and break into your circle of self realization ? tat is unacceptable! i have often failed to control that bit in me, especially when i realize that the one i'm dealing with me may not share my common reasonable approach, and would just jump at the opportunity if he senses any meagre resposne to take more of my pride and protective land and add to his ego and boost it up, that is unacceptable to me! i would always tell myself i don't care about who's better then who , but in reality io do care, and i have managed to create certain feelings of satisfaction that i'm better than others in certain things which preserves my self confidence and prevenbts me from unleaching my egotisitical monsters at them! but when provocked it's very hard to control such monsters! i have been amazed with Gandhi's approach, when it comes to dealing with your aggressors, he used to claim that it was apssive resistance, but i don't share that same description, for if you break the rules of your aggressors and ignore their rules and regulations, then that is resistance, it maybe passive in the sense of not using the same weapons as your aggressors to hit back, but it definitely doesn't say just stand still while they slap you on the face and bow down to their wishes, it's still resistance but in a different way that seeks to ignore your aggressors all together, their existance, their wishes, and their objectives in hope that they we will eventually disappear themselves, but to do that you have to tame your monsters first, or maybe someone should invent a Gandhi pill that restrains all the monsters and provides you with the right peaceful solution to dealing with such threats.

Irrelevent minima

2006-12-18T16:51:00.000-08:00

one of the Oddest things possible to happen to anyone these days, is coming up with a good idea that actually works, don't shake your head at me, if it worked right away out of the box it was probably an "un-original idea" , fresh ideas usually come with all the abrasive packaging that usually means that it just have been chiseled out of some extraordinary brain, polished ideas are well worn by the process of trial and error, they do work to some extent or the other "out of the box", wonder how many "fresh ideas" have i had in the last four years, not as much as I'd like i think... oh I'm not going to rant about my lobotomized otherwise superb mental abilities, not this time at any rate, it just strikes me that i haven't heard or seen an original idea in quite a while now.
regardless of what field we choose to focus on, it has appeared to some that "intellect" is not equal to "ingenuity", intellect is the ability to learn things, that's also called smart, it's disturbing how many people out there equate the two totally different traits, and worst of all are those who agree with the above to go right ahead and equate Ingenuity with creativity ... complete morons if you ask me, to be creative is to "create" things, .. hmmn ... so what exactly is ingenuity you ask?
i haven't got the foggiest you know ... but it is a sure marvelous display of how linguistics could make all the difference between different meanings, it's amazing how much people normally blab on using titles they hardly even know the meaning of, pretty silly, does not create a dialog, i believe it's very much like the ages old ancient trade rites, where traders would communicate and barter without knowing a single syllable of each others language, note that "syllable" is different to "letter", the case in most communications back then would be to show off the most exorbitant speech and body language pattern to gain more impressionability on the other, it seems that we are still practicing this fundamental rite now, till this day i have yet to meet a person who actually knows what he/she is really talking about, absurd meanings, invariable variables and things like that are so dominant in our modern speech, it's really pathetic.
would someone correct me if I'm wrong, wasn't the purpose of language when it was first created? communication? I'm honestly not sure that this is the case anymore, or even back then, to many humans i have met, body language is the real determinate factor in any vocal display of oratory power, in other words, if he/she looks like he/she knows what he is talking about, he probably does, the fact that that thing maybe relevant, is in most cases .. irrelevant,
now take a long deep breath, try to actually absorb what i just said, it's difficult to do so sometimes, i sympathize, but i have just declared to you that all those years of earnest communication with everyone you know, was pointless...
don't look at me crosswise, that's body language again, and since I'm not looking at you i wont get it, try to actually communicate back, hold back that stream of thoughts your having, and hopefully try to put them into to meaningful words,
that's what they were meant to do
communicate.

To smoke or not to smoke

2006-10-10T03:15:00.000-07:00

Smoking is fun (for smokers), it relieves a lot of stress, is a way to waste time, and to some people smoking eventually becomes a friend.

A friend is someone you care about, someone you wouldn't want to harm in any way, and is someone you trust with your valuables.

How would you feel if a friend of yours borrowed your car and smashed it, slammed it, broke it, and turned it into a mess, Willingly?!

How would you feel if he did it right infront of you?! as you watched him?!.... would you be angry? what would you do to that friend of yours?

God has trusted you with this body, it's not yours! it's his!

Daddy.... are there really green monsters here?

2006-08-05T19:55:00.000-07:00

When we were kids we learnt a lot of theoritical information that we never could make a connection to in real life, and as we grew up and started learning the philosophy of "When in Rome Do as the Romans do" we started basing our morals and ethics on the general behaviour of our surrounding environment (except with some exceptional cases).

So where do the fulltime villans live in real life? or were they in cartoons only for entertainment purposes, it turns out later that due to the lack of further explanation on what villans are, we tend to make a lot of mistakes by communicating and sometimes bonding with the wrong people, just because they don't have a tail or have two horns on their head.

We meet with villains everyday, however, unlike cartoons they aren't aware of the fact that they are really villains, they may even believe that they are the victims, and that by doing what they're doing they're just getting what's rightfully theirs, of course without honest feedback from their friends and kin, their vices begin to develop even further, i hate to think of what hitler's friends and kin were like, i don't solely blame the environment, ofcourse if the individual is self obssessed and a narcisit, that also helps the vicsous cycle.

Some examples of the villains we meet maybe an unjust boss at work, or maybe a self involved, careless and unhelpful relative or friend, or maybe they're all the characters you dislike combined (you must be very unlucky to get that though).

So, what other disconnects are there in life? let's say the simple lessons we learnt about being honest and friendly, i don't think they were very clear, i mean, look the world today, i believe a simple thing like telling your kids there's something like a white lie and black lie isn't acceptable, or having him lie about you being at home to other people then asking him not to lie to you, confuses us, and creates our inner conviction that we can always have double measures, one of which is always in our favor.

Maybe if we simply start by listening, rethinking our actions everynight before going to sleep and thinking what the people around us are getting on the receiving end, the balance of justice may start leveling back to where it should be.

Nina Simone "Sinnerman"

2006-05-02T13:05:00.000-07:00

Oh sinnerman, where you gunna run to
Where you gunna run to
All on that day

This is how this song starts, and this is how most of our lives start, or maybe end... no one knows for sure, who cares anwyays!! this is what happens when you ship sails.. you sin, off you go.. you have to be a good sailor otherwise you will end-up like the Titanic.. but poor you.. you was not trained good enough... or maybe you were trained but you didnt pay enough attention to what your mama said... you didnt read the manual... and you never asked for directions during the trip.. so dont blame no-one but yourself captain Titanic when your ship crashes.
Those who managed to reach the end safely never got back to tell us the course they followed, and those who told us which way NOT to follow are sadely dead... everybody knows what happened to the Titanic right??..... irnoic huh?... BUT, doesn't this tell you anything??... well it's telling me something... it says "its easier to know the wrong way than to figuer out the right one" .....
in other words, i should not be writing all the above, for my ship is still sailing :D... so lets start allover again.

Oh sinnerman, where you gunna run to
Where you gunna run to
All on that day

This is how the song starts, and this is how pop up windows start popping in my mind ( unfortunatly, pop up blockers dont work with that kind of pop ups, i should convert to linux sometime soon), the first says "why does the sinnerman has to run in first place?", and then pops another one "run from whom??"..... a pop up shows "offcourse he cannot be running from God"... and another one "he cant be running from his sins either", if he is stupid enough to think that he can run from eitehr God or his sins, then i shouldnt be wasting my time thinking about it, right???.. dinnnng ( a pop up shows) "maybe he is a schizophrenic and running from his other 2 characters", but this doesnt make sense. the most reasonable answer i could come up with is that(dinnng) "sinnerman is running from the other men", (dinnnng) "they are sinner-men aswell but they dont understand yet". another pop up dings" what happens when each of them realises that he is a sinnerman aswell?"...... and this is when i start laughing, cos now i see the whole world running, and all the ships crashing :D ....

Now i 'll reboot befor more pop ups follow. No more Nina Simone for me tonight.
At the end i want to thank all captains Titanic, the black box inventors, family in tanta , garnma & granpa in the underworld and i dedicate the next song "Twinkle Twinkle Little Star" to my unborn children.

Listen to your mama if you still can, fetch your manual and read whats left of it.. and if you are a man, well it's ok if you stop to ask for directions and be sure that nobody will call you a chicken, cos chicken never ask for directions, cos they know they are not gonna survive anwyays, if not eaten, the bird's flu will beat them.

people and balls

2006-04-10T14:42:00.000-07:00

WARNING THIS IS A RANT

picture this situation, you are standing in a sunny park, you have a ball in your hand, you see someone interesting, you throw the ball at him/her, you may imagine one of the following results:

1. ball hits him/her unaware, right then and there, you laugh smiling at him/her
2. he/she notices the ball flying in his/her direction and either dodges it or catches it
3. you completely miss (you can eliminate this case by more practice at throwing balls)

now you can also imagine one of the following responses
for case 1:
a) he/she is angry to be the target of your ball, the question lights up, "what are you doing in the park then?"
b) he/she laughs and throws the ball right back at you, grinning!
c) he/she has never in his life seen a ball before, hence it just bounces off him/her and falls in the mud.

for case 2:
a) if he/she dodges it, and looks busy or uninterested, again the question lights up, "what are you doing in the park then?"
b) he/she dodges the ball and doesn't seem to notice, you might want to try another ball at the same target.
c) he/she plus you start playing ball, both parties grinning.

now for whatever or whoever's sake, which pair of action and reaction is more fun, IMHO i think it would be either 2-c , or 1-b with 1-b being more natural, of course the worst possible pair would be 1-a being the most common, and 1-c being excessively dreary.
the question now, is why do people go to parks in the first place, reasons may vary from enjoying the sun, wanting a partner to play ball , to planning mass murder of everyone playing ball.
AFAIK, going to a park cause you don't want to meet people is irrational and unhealthy, oddly enough seems to be disturbingly common.
the smart ones "hopefully you" reading between the lines would recognize that the park I'm talking about are any Internet medium where people join example something like Hi5.com or NeatVibe.com or the like, and the balls are the conversation / socialization attempts, now call me insane but for the life of me i don't understand why do people join such "open communities" if there answer to socialization attempts is something like "i don't trust anyone from the net" assume the shrillest voice you could imagine ... yikes, what does "trust" have to do with this? it's just a ball!! trust is something that comes with time, say after 20 ball games..
human foibles are diverse and many, so each one individual of us has his/her own crop of in-securities, no one is about to pamper your foibles, when you act that way, well you really really should consider locking your self up in a dark stone closet with water dripping slowly on you (effective Chinese torture method),
but DO delete your account first!
if you don't want to be in the park, then don't be in the park.
for the rest of us who do want to play ball, the sun is bright and there are a lot of people out there, the object is to have fun, meet people noncommittally, mingle and enjoy new ideas, to enrich your life with new people, possible friends and maybe even more, just remember why you went to the park in the first place.
and for anyone out there, I've got plenty of balls !! :P
note : this manual does not cover sleazy balls infected or diseased or even hairy ones ..