Gandhi Pills

Throghout my life i have been confronted with unreasonable aggression, hurt and just to put it simply: HATE! It has always been a dilemma to try to deal with such situations, do i come back at my aggressors with the same force? do i try to understand their reasons and motives first? do i disregard it? i have always tried to convince myself that what our parents have taught us as kids is the right road, that i have to swallow the hurt and be the more reasonable party in this situation, sometimes it was bareable, and i was able to swallow it, most other times i couldn't, i had to do something, it was like being handed a really hot plate, which you're trying to handle with the tips of your fingers and at the same time you don't want to fall or be handed over to any one else you know, how do you deal with such situations? when you can barely restrain yourself from giving back your aggressor a piece of your mind! Some people look upon this as an opportunity to unleach all their burried hurt and frustration, and that by aggreviating them their aggressor has unlocked the door to his own demise, and so they're not resposnible for whatever happens to him, and will not feel any guilt by unloading all their negative feelings unto him. Yet i wonder, what if it was all because of mis-communication, i would still like to belive that no one would approach some one he knows or doesn't know and blast off at him for no reason what so ever, there must be some reason for it, some explanation, some miscommunication, and that is why i feel we have to address the misocmmunication that happened and not the aggression itself, however, other factors come into play, other very powerful and influential factors such as diginity, pride and sense of self worth! how can you allow someone to approach your turf and break into your circle of self realization ? tat is unacceptable! i have often failed to control that bit in me, especially when i realize that the one i'm dealing with me may not share my common reasonable approach, and would just jump at the opportunity if he senses any meagre resposne to take more of my pride and protective land and add to his ego and boost it up, that is unacceptable to me! i would always tell myself i don't care about who's better then who , but in reality io do care, and i have managed to create certain feelings of satisfaction that i'm better than others in certain things which preserves my self confidence and prevenbts me from unleaching my egotisitical monsters at them! but when provocked it's very hard to control such monsters! i have been amazed with Gandhi's approach, when it comes to dealing with your aggressors, he used to claim that it was apssive resistance, but i don't share that same description, for if you break the rules of your aggressors and ignore their rules and regulations, then that is resistance, it maybe passive in the sense of not using the same weapons as your aggressors to hit back, but it definitely doesn't say just stand still while they slap you on the face and bow down to their wishes, it's still resistance but in a different way that seeks to ignore your aggressors all together, their existance, their wishes, and their objectives in hope that they we will eventually disappear themselves, but to do that you have to tame your monsters first, or maybe someone should invent a Gandhi pill that restrains all the monsters and provides you with the right peaceful solution to dealing with such threats.